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I am loving a guy for more than four years now. We are very close friends and I can say we both have a mutual feeling and understanding. Until he got married and it was arranged, it hurt but still our communication is continuous and we even chat regularly. I love him but he is married and if ever I am just an option but I think I am ready to be.
You are in a very tricky situation. Loving someone who is not available is very challenging and risky. In your case, I can see that you are ready to face the challenges because you love him but believe me this is not easy. The more you love him the more it will become complicated and risky. Try to divert your attention, slowly lessen the communication, try to live a day without him.
I know you will say “I cannot do that” well you need to be emotionally prepared.
Your mind has been set and ready for “come what may” but when the conflicts arise it will need both your mind and emotion in a very good state to rescue you.
Your intense feeling is high because there is a challenge, a competition between you and the wife. You want to validate if he likes you before he got married and does keeping you as a friend means something else to him? Only you can answer that, but for me, a guy like him will not waste his time, effort and telephone bill if he doesn’t feel the same way as you feel. I think both of you like each other, only that who will have the courage to make a move to define the relationship and get out of the friend zone. Who will burst first to ask “what are we?” and I hope it’s not you hahaha always remember “control is power!”
Two things you need to consider this time first forget about him because he is no longer available.
Second is follow what you feel, continue what you have with him until the relationship defined and be ready for all the consequences of your choice. Whatever you choose it is you and only you can drive your love life; think well and always love yourself first. Good luck and keep me posted.
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